Table of Contents

List of Reproducible Pages

Introduction

Facts About Bullying and Conflict in Children’s Lives

Research on the Impact of Bullying
Research on What Impacts Kids Positively

About This Book

How the Book Is Organized
Using the Book in Your Setting

Background for Conducting the Sessions and Working with Students

Before You Begin
Key Practices and Skills: The Core Sessions
Using the Win/Win Guidelines for Working Out Conflicts
Incorporating and Reviewing “Get-Along” Classroom Agreements
Four Critical Ways for Teachers to Prevent Bullying
Acknowledging and Affirming Students
Anticipating Challenges

Integrating the Understandings in This Book Throughout the Day

Part One: Building Bully-Free Skills and Attitudes

The Core Sessions

Session 1: Introducing the Concept of a “Get-Along” Classroom
Session 2: Respectful Listening
Session 3: Great Listeners in Our Lives
Session 4: Deep Breathing
Session 5: Integrity
Session 6: Peace Pledge
Session 7: Leave It at the Door
Session 8: Peace Table
Session 9: Stop, Breathe, Chill
Session 10: Introducing I-Messages
Session 11: Practicing I-Messages
Session 12: Reflective Listening
Session 13: Taking Responsibility in Conflicts
Session 14: Brainstorming Solutions to Conflicts
Session 15: Win/Win Guidelines for Working Out Conflicts

Part Two: Getting Along and Staying Bully Free
Fostering Kindness and Compassion

Session 16: Creating Your Place in Other People’s Memory Banks
Session 17: How Do You Want to Be Remembered?
Session 18: Choosing Kindness
Session 19: Take a Stand for Kindness
Session 20: It’s Cool to Be Kind
Session 21: Redefining Cool
Session 22: Words That Hurt
Session 23: Standing Up for Those Who Are Mistreated
Session 24: Thinking About Kindness
Session 25: Listening with Care and Openness
Session 26: Being Excluded
Session 27: Put-Ups, Not Put-Downs
Session 28: Personal Put-Ups
Session 29: Rumors Are Unkind
Session 30: Stamp Out Rumors
Session 31: What Is Conscience
Session 32: Listening to the Voice of Your Conscience

Managing Anger

Session 33: Things That Make Us Mad
Session 34: It’s Okay to Be Angry, But Not to Be Cruel
Session 35: Responding to Anger
Session 36: Peaceful Place Visualization
Session 37: Using Stop, Breathe, Chill in Real-Life Situations
Session 38: Calming Statements
Session 39: Picture the Cake, Blow Out the Candles (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 40: Other Ways to Chill Out
Session 41: See Yourself Getting Calmer (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 42: Things We Do When We Get Angry
Session 43: Breathe Out/Breathe In (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 44: How Are We Doing? (Review)
Session 45: Getting Past Reacting
Session 46: Don’t Get Physical
Session 47: Peace Shield
Session 48: Using “Think-Alouds” (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 49: Anger Management Role Play
Session 50: Getting Help with Anger (10-Minute Time Cruncher)

Preventing Conflict

Session 51: Top 10 Conflict Starters
Session 52: Conflict Habits, Part 1
Session 53: Conflict Habits, Part 2
Session 54: Positive and Negative Choices in Conflicts
Session 55: Observing Conflict
Session 56: Responsibility vs. Blame, Part 1
Session 57: Responsibility vs. Blame, Part 2
Session 58: Willingness to Work Out Conflicts
Session 59: Willingness Blocks
Session 60: Examining Our Willingness Blocks
Session 61: Let’s Compromise (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 62: Basement or Balcony? Part 1
Session 63: Basement or Balcony? Part 2
Session 64: Staying in the Balcony
Session 65: Introducing Assertiveness
Session 66: Conflict Solver Interviews
Session 67: Staying Respectful with Someone You Don’t Like
Session 68: The Dignity Stance
Session 69: Staying Out of Physical Fights

Responding to Conflict

Session 70: Win/Win Guidelines for Working Out Conflicts (Review)
Session 71: Working Out Conflicts with Someone Who Is Unwilling
Session 72: Using I-Messages and Reflective Listening in Conflicts
Session 73: Gossip and Conflict
Session 74: Conflicts with Friends
Session 75: Brainstorming Solutions (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 76: Group Conflicts: Talking Someone Down
Session 77: Group Conflicts: Check In with Your Conscience
Session 78: Confronting Someone Who Has Hurt You
Session 79: Dealing with Exclusion and Rejection
Session 80: The Problem with Fighting
Session 81: Mediating a Friend’s Conflict

Addressing Name-Calling and Teasing

Session 82: Taking Responsibility for Mean Words
Session 83: Effects of Name-Calling, Put-Downs, and Meanness
Session 84: Dignity Stance Review (10-Minute Time Cruncher)
Session 85: Assertive Responses to Mean Words, Part 1
Session 86: Assertive Responses to Mean Words, Part 2
Session 87: Mean Comments, Gestures, and Laughter
Session 88: Unhooking from Mean Words and Actions
Session 89: Tools for Unhooking
Session 90: Learning to Detach
Session 91: “I Was Just Kidding”
Session 92: Don’t Get Stung by Zingers
Session 93: Becoming Zinger-Proof
Session 94: Being an Upstander for Someone Who’s Being Teased

Dealing with Bullying

Session 95: What Is Bullying?
Session 96: Questions About Bullying
Session 97: What to Do If Someone Bullies You
Session 98: Help Yourself Deal with Bullying
Session 99: If You’ve Bullied Others
Session 100: Strengthen Yourself from the Inside Out
Session 101: Reprogram Your Brain
Session 102: Projects to Prevent Bullying
Session 103: Fostering Compassion—“I Know What It’s Like”
Session 104: The Courage to Be an Upstander
Session 105: Stand Up to Bullying
Session 106: More Practice for Being an Upstander
Session 107: Bullied on the Playground
Session 108: Bullied by Friends
Session 109: Listening to Your Gut
Session 110: “Gay, Nerd, Freak”
Session 111: Cyberbullying
Session 112: Picture a School Without Bullying
Session 113: Ways to End Bullying in Our School

Accepting Differences

Session 114: Step into the Circle
Session 115: This Is Who I Am
Session 116: Different and Alike Interviews
Session 117: Differences Can Separate Us, Part 1
Session 118: Differences Can Separate Us, Part 2
Session 119: Prejudice, Bias, and Stereotypes
Session 120: Be Part of the Solution
Session 121: Differences Writing Activities

Four Review Sessions You Can Use at Any Time

Session 122: Ball-Throw Review
Session 123: Brainstorming Web
Session 124: Note Card Review/Reflect
Session 125: TV Show Review

Pre- and Post-Test

Survey About Conflicts

References and Resources

Index

About the Author