Elder Rage, or Take My Father... Please! How to Survive Caring for Aging Parents

Elder Rage is a Book–of–the–Month Club selection (caregiving book first) receiving 200+ 5–Star B&N reviews, required reading at numerous universities, and considered for a film. Over 50 endorsements include Regis Philbin, Leeza Gibbons, Jacqueline Bisset, Duke University Center for Aging, Dr. John Gray, Mark Victor Hansen, Julie Harris, Johns Hopkins Memory Clinic, Dr. Nancy Snyderman, Dr. Rudy Tanzi/Harvard Medical School, and the National Adult Day Services Association.

Elder Rage is a riveting, humorous, true story chronicling Jacqueline Marcell’s trials, tribulations, and eventual success at managing the care of her aging parents. Also an extensive self–help book, Elder Rage provides solutions for effective management medically, behaviorally, socially, legally, financially, and emotionally of challenging elders starting to get dementia and resisting care.

Elder Rage presents creative solutions for getting obstinate elders to: accept cleaning/caregiving help, give up driving, see new doctors, take medication, shower, eat, attend adult day care, move to a new residence, etc. Includes valuable resources, Q&A, recommended reading. Also includes an extensive addendum by renowned neurologist/dementia specialist, Rodman Shankle, MD, A Physician’s Guide To Treating Dementia, making it valuable for everyone from the family to the physician.

MARCELL’S MISSIONS:

Help improve eldercare laws; show healthcare professionals how they can better help families they work with; provide solutions and hope to caregivers; encourage funding for Alzheimer’s research and bring awareness to importance of early diagnosis; expose elder abuse, neglect and exploitation; encourage long–term care planning; bring attention to the need for Adult Day Care Services.

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ISBN-13:	9780967970318
Publisher:	Impressive Press
Publication date:	04/28/2001
Edition description:	Second Edition
Pages:	346
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Jacqueline Marcell barely survived as a caregiver to her ‘challenging’ father and sweet mother, both with Alzheimer’s undiagnosed for over a year. But after fighting through the medical system, endless tears, and depleting her parents’ life savings and much of her own, she figured everything out medically, behaviorally, socially, legally, financially, and emotionally. Passion to save others (especially from elder abuse) compelled her to write Elder Rage, launch the ‘Coping with Caregiving’ radio show, and become and international speaker (CEU/CME), in an effort to educate on issues which unnecessarily cost years of her life—and then nearly her life itself when she survived invasive breast cancer.

Hundreds of keynotes include for the California Governor’s Conference, National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, National Security Agency, and Florida House of Representatives. Media includes: TODAY, CNN, PBS Alzheimer’s Documentary, AARP Bulletin cover story, Woman’s Day, Prevention, and hundreds of articles and radio & television interviews. Honors include: Advocate of the Year from the National Association of Women Business Owners at their Remarkable Women Awards—and Media Award from the National Adult Day Services Association.

1.	If it Isn't Ten Things--It's Twenty	1
	I've Seen Fire and I've Seen Rain Drops Fallin' on My Head
	Cries and Careless Whispers
	Reality Bites the Hell Outta Ya
	Just a Little R-E-S-P-E-C-T When I Come Home
	Le Miserable
2.	Hyde Strung in Plain Sight	17
	What's It All About, Jackie
	Losing My Religion
	As the Wounded Turn
	One Life to Live-or-Two Minds to Lose
3.	My Little Gang of Rascals	33
	Phantom Menace of the Old Folk's Farm
	Do Not Back Up: Severe Life Damage
	And Then Came Mom
	Penny Wise and Pounds of Foolish Fiddlers
	Grouch-Ohhh!
	Demented Times Require Desperate Measures
4.	Honey, I Blew up the House	47
	Shock It to Me
	Fred and Wilma Moved to Green Acres
	The Man From U.N.Believable
	Look Who's Talking Now
	Miss Judge What Your County Can Do For You
5.	Jacqueline, You Ignorant Slut	67
	Good Morning, Vietnam
	And Then Along Came Something About Mary Jo
	I'm Steppin' Into the Third Dementia
	I Remember Mama Said There'd Be Months Like This
6.	In a Oh-My-Goddadivida, Honey	87
	I'm Dreamin' of a Wishful Christmas
	More Nonsense and Responsibilities
	If This Table Could Talk
7.	Nurture and Nature Messed Him Up	103
	The Way They Were
	Grumpy Old Men Was a Documentary
	It Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda Been a Wonderful Life
	Merrily, Merrily, Life Is But a Scream
8.	Mending Shattered Fences	117
	Too Good to Be True Lies-or-Dared Consequences
	I'm Mad as Hell and I'm Not
	That's Me in the Spotlight
9.	Fugitives From Injustice	137
	He Ought to Be in Pictures Worth a Thousand Words
	Star Searching For Sanity-or-All My Caregivers
	The Price of the Prejudice
	The Old and the Restless
	Midsummer's Nightmare at the Alamo
10.	Enter Terri	159
	May the Driving Force Be With You
	Long Day's Journey Into Nightmares
	Clear and Present Danger: The Hospital
	Joined at the Hip
11.	Amazing Ariana	177
	Oh What a Mangled Web We Weave
	The Hardest Working Maniac in Show Business
	Pros and Cons
12.	Once an Adult, Twice a Child	185
	Old Age Is Not For Cry Babies
	Still Crazy After All These Years
	Liar Liar, Pants on Fire
	Unsolved Maniac Mysteries
	Gentle, Dependable, Overnight Disbelief
	Even Ripley Won't Believe It
13.	Friends and Family Matters Most	201
	Desperately Seeking Sanity
	The Three Faces of Jacqueline
	The Outer Limits of Suspected Belief
	I'm All Outta Whole Lotta Love
	I'd Rather Donate a Kidney... To Oprah
14.	Gullible's Travels-or-Small Balls of Fire	217
	Bound and Gagged By Honor
	Two, Two, Two Minds in One
	Abbott and Costello Meet Jekyll & Hyde
	In the Heat of the Day For Night
	Relative Relativity-or-Tommy Can You Hear Me?
	The Greatest Story I Ever TOLD YOU SO
15.	Achy Breaky Heart of Hearts	233
	Unwanted: Dead or Alive
	Bound on Broadway
	What a Long Strange Trip It's Been
	Hyde Risk Behavior
	Born to Be Just a Wild and Crazy Guy
16.	To Be Demented or Deceptive? That Was the Question	251
	How to Earn a Ph.D. at Home
	Ahhh, Hindsight--It's Always 20/20, Barbara
	Appendix
	Behavior Modification Guidelines	272
	When a Difficult Elder Displays Good Behavior	273
	Verbal Praise
	Loving Physical Affection
	Edible Treats
	Special Activity
	Special Attention
	Gold Stars Chart
	When a Difficult Elder Displays Negative Behavior	275
	Verbal Commands
	Time-Outs
	Three Strikes
	Shame
	Remove Specific Privileges/Charts
	Call the Police
	How Do I Handle My Elderly Loved One Who	278
1.	Wants all my time and attention?	278
2.	Makes constant unreasonable demands?	279
3.	Is inflexible, critical and negative?	279
4.	Complains about real or imagined physical symptoms?	280
5.	Exhibits bizarre behavior and uses inappropriate/foul language?	281
6.	Has become suspicious and paranoid?	282
7.	Is experiencing increasing levels of memory loss?	282
8.	Makes up silly lies, exaggerates and cries wolf?	282
9.	Prefers to stay in bed or do nothing--"waiting to die"?	283
10.	Refuses to allow a cleaning person into their home?	284
11.	Gets furious if something doesn't happen at a specific time?	284
12.	Gets mad when told "no" they can't do something?	284
13.	Wants to eat constantly or only wants to eat the same thing?	285
14.	Refuses to take showers and change their underclothes?	285
15.	Is a danger on the road but refuses to give up driving?	286
16.	Needs but refuses to allow any caregiving help in the home?	286
17.	Can no longer take proper care of their bills and finances?	289
18.	Refuses to see any other doctor but is not getting adequate care?	290
19.	Needs to see a psychiatrist but absolutely refuses to go?	291
20.	Acts completely normal and charming in front of others?	292
21.	Fakes illness at the Day Care to avoid staying?	292
22.	Is driving me crazy as I try to deal with all their problems?	292
23.	Has pushed me to feelings of resentment and guilt?	294
24.	Cannot be reasoned with when they go into an illogical rage?	295
25.	Is completely unmanageable and needs to be placed in a home?	296
	Long-Term Care Insurance	297
	Ten Warning Signs of Alzheimer's Disease	298
	How is Alzheimer's Disease Diagnosed?	299
	Three Stages of Alzheimer's Disease	300
	Startling Statistics	302
	Other Diseases That Act Like Alzheimer's	304
	Epilog	305
	A Physician's Guide to Treating Aggression in Dementia	306
	Types of Aggressive Behavior	308
	The Nine Major Causes of Aggressive Behavior	309
	The Potential for Violent Aggressive Behavior	311
	Medications That Can Increase or Decrease Aggression	311
	Diagnosis of the Cause of Aggression	313
	Aggression Evaluation Steps to Determine the Best Treatment	314
	Screening	316
	Prevention	318
	Neuroanatomy of Aggression	319
	Neurophysiology of Aggression	319
	Treatment of Aggression	320
	Behavioral Treatment of Aggression	320
	Medications to Treat Aggression	321
	Anti-Aggression Medications Grouped by Their Site of Action	324
	Conclusion	327
	Hope For the Future	329
	New Medication: Neotrophin	329
	Omentum Transposition Surgery: Dr. Harry Goldsmith	330
	The Search for a Cure: Dr. Rudolph Tanzi	331
	Valuable Resources	332
	Recommended Reading	342
	Contact the Author	346

What People are Saying About This

Steve Allen

A remarkable book! You have charted a relatively untrod field associated with the aging process. You deserve a great credit—congratulations!

Dr. Dean Edell

Jacqueline tackles that part of life that most think will never happen, and shocks us out of our denial with what it can really be like dealing with the personality and diseases of our elders.

Hugh Downs

Jacqueline's story and style of writing will surely grab a large readership. Studded with flashes of humor, it demonstrates the enormous resourcefulness and resilience of the human spirit.

Regis Philbin

I thought I knew Jacqueline until I read her book. Wow, What a story! If you're caring for an elder, you won't believe how much this books will help you.

Robert A. Stern Ph.D.

Robert A. Stern, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Neurology and Associate Director of the Alzheimer's Disease Clinical and Research Program, Boston University School of Medicine
Thank you so much for your superb presentation at our Alzheimer's Research Seminar. The audience included dementia specialists, senior neurologists and neuropsychologists, basic scientists, nurses, fellows, residents, medical students, clinical research staff, and others from New England who came specifically to hear you. And, what a fabulous presentation it was! Your ability to combine humor, personal insight, wisdom, and critical meaningful guidance to all of us involved in the web of care for those with dementia was sensational. Each gained useful tips and tools that will enrich our professional practices and personal experiences.

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Editorial Reviews

Here, Marcell shares incredibly useful information interspersed with many moments of humor. Her resource is down-to-earth and hopeful, with insight into the panoply of challenges involved with elder care: medical, social, financial, and emotional. In the "How Do I Handle My Elder Loved One Who…" section, the author dispenses wisdom on about two dozen potential situations one may encounter when caring for an elderly parent. Essential for those with aging parents.

Library Journal

In Elder Rage: How To Survive Caring For Aging Parents, Jacqueline Marcell shares the story of her shocking discovery of how the lives of her elderly parents had deteriorated with the onset of her father's dementia and inability to continue to care for her ailing mother. Elder Rage is more than a personal memoir and eventual success story, it is also a revelation into one of today's rapidly burgeoning problems of elder care and what resources are available for caregivers in dealing with problems of their parent's senility, character disorders, and age-based health issues. Of special value is the addendum "A Physician's Guide To Treating Aggression In Dementia With The Proper Medications" by former Medical Director of the UC Irvine Alzheimer's Clinic, Rodman Shankle, M.D. Elder Rage is very highly recommended reading for anyone concerned about dealing with an aging parent's needs when impacted by dementia or Alzheimers.

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