There’s a misconception that nice, shy and good guys finish last! I’m here to tell you it is far from the truth. While a lot of nice guys experience a life of being overlooked by the women they desire (which is usually because of their shyness), it’s just a phase they go through to appreciate themselves better. Generally, that phase occurs between the ages of twelve through thirty. It can, and sometimes does, last longer.
Over the next few minutes, I will explain to you in detail why nice guys do not finish last anymore and in the foreseeable future! It’s not as complicated as you think. Actually, it’s so simple if you are a nice, shy or good guy it will give you hope that things will work out for you in the woman department.
However, there are three requirements that will assure you are at the head of the line when women begin to pick their life partner. The requirements, while considered small things, are very, very, very important. Want to know what they are? Keep reading!
There’s a trend in the United States, and around the world, that’s been ongoing for at least two decades. There are more girls being born than boys. That means there are more women than there are men. This may not be important to you right now but it plays a huge role as to why nice guys finish first and not last!
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It is usually around thirty years of age that women begin to contemplate their future regarding marriage, kids and settling down. Unfortunately, at that stage in life many men are either in jail, on or abusing drugs, gay/homosexual,
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dead or lazy as hell. That leaves women with a small selection of men. And that is a best-case scenario!
This plays into the hands of the nice, shy and good guys! When women are left with such limited options they either:
1. Reconsider their semi-false criteria for men, or
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2. Give up on finding a man
As a nice guy, there will be hundreds of beautiful, sexy and intelligent women that will consider talking with you if you possess most of the qualities they need. Don’t think you can get any woman you desire without having your house in order. No sane woman wants a man with more problems and issues than she has.
The question is, “What is it women need?” Unfortunately, many women don’t know what they need or want. Yet, you can be around when they figure it out.
You do this by meeting the first requirement--become their friend. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “I’ve been in that position before and the women always went out with someone else.” Yes, that may have happened in the past. But today is a new day! The women are older; their biological clock is ticking, they’re looking to settle down and the quality of men is dwindling.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying women are desparate. Many of them just want to be happy with a man who will love them, is responsible, assist with the household chores, bring home the bacon and don’t mind frying it in the
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pan too! Basically, women want a partner to share their life with who is on the same page as them.
As their friend, you get to learn more about them, what they like, dislike and discover how compatible you are with them. And the beautiful part is you are free to be friends with as many women as you desire. Therefore, you get a larger selection of women and can decide who closely match your lifestyle and can meet your needs.
The key is to be sincere in your efforts to get to know the women you are interested in. Your purpose should be to determine the best woman for you and then focus your attention on that one woman.
If you use the guise of friends as a way to manipulate and get women to sleep with you it will backfire. It may not happen today but trust me something will go wrong. Whatever you do it’s not a good idea to lead women on. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn.” Don’t ever forget that.
Now here’s the fun part! As you get to know the women and they get to know you a few of them will begin to stand out from the crowd. Yet, there isn’t a rush to pick one until you are sure of what you want and need. Have fun, go out, experience new things and enjoy your time with the women!
It is also a good idea to be very honest with the women. Let each one know you have other friends as well. Don’t hide anything! Give each woman the option to continue to