Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships

by John Townsend, Henry Cloud (Foreword by)

Overview

How do you know you’re ready to trust again … and what does it take to be ready?

Painful relationships violate our trust, causing us to close our hearts. But to experience the freedom and love God designed us for, we eventually have to take another risk.

In this breakthrough book, bestselling author Dr. John Townsend takes you beyond the pain of the past to discover how to re-enter a life of intimate relationships. Whether you’re trying to restore a current relationship or begin a new one, Townsend gives practical tools for establishing trust and finding the intimacy you long for.

Beyond Boundaries will help you:

• Reinstate closeness appropriately with someone who broke your trust
• Discern when true change has occurred
• Reestablish appropriate connections in strained relationships
• Create a safe environment that helps you trust
• Restore former relationships to a healthy dynamic
• Learn to engage and be vulnerable in a new relationship as well

You can move past relational pain to trust again.

Beyond Boundaries will show you how.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310330769
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	11/13/2012
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	6.12(w) x 8.84(h) x 0.75(d)
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Dr. John Townsend is a respected leadership consultant, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. Dr. Townsend is the founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the online digital platform Townsend NOW; he also conducts the Townsend Leadership program. He travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking, and helping develop leaders and their teams. He and his wife, Barbi, have two sons, Ricky and Benny, and live in Newport Beach, California.

Table of Contents

Foreword Henry Cloud 9

Introduction: Don't Settle 11

Part 1 Understanding the Problem 19

1 The Draw to Relationship 23

2 The Damage Arrives 31

3 Boundaries and What They Accomplish 37

4 The Return of Desire 45

Part 2 Knowing when You're Ready 59

5 You Admit the Hurt and Receive Support 61

6 You Understand Your Own Past Choices 67

7 You Can Connect the Dots 77

8 You Grieve and Let it Go 89

9 You Develop Growth Friendships 103

10 You Trust Your Defining Boundaries 115

11 You Let Your Values Transform Your Desires 129

12 You Know Which Risks Are Worth. Taking and Which Are Not 139

Part 3 Knowing when the Other Person is Ready 153

13 Does This Person Care About His or Her Impact on You? 155

14 Is This Person (Really) Connected to Good People? 167

15 Can This Person Handle a Relationship with You? 183

16 For Dating and Marriage: Does This Person Go Beyond Passion? 197

17 Is the Big Problem Being Solved the Right Way? 209

Part 4 Moving into the Relationship 223

18 The Talk You Must Have 225

19 Take a Risk 237

20 Deal with Speed Bumps 247

21 How Far Can You Go? 259

Conclusion: Beyond Boundaries into Your Best Life 269

Notes 271