Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship

by Terri Orbuch

Overview

Based on a groundbreaking 25-year study of marriage, divorce, and new love-finding the right one just became 100% possible. Whether you're divorced or separated, out of a long-term relationship, or newly dating after a long break, Finding Love Again will help you prepare for a healthy and fulfilling new relationship. Brimming with stunning original findings, first-person stories, and eye-opening advice, Finding Love Again shows you simple, practical strategies that have been shown time and again to help singles find someone special. Dr. Terri L. Orbuch, renowned relationship expert and director of a pioneering relationship study, shows you:

• Eight relationship myths that are sabotaging your love life.
• Why singles who have little or no contact with an ex's family find love at significantly higher rates than singles who keep in close contact with their ex-in-laws.
• How singles who make one change to their daily routine-and stick with it for at least 21 days-are twice as likely to find new love.
• Why the happiest couples in new relationships are the ones who don't share bank accounts.

Finding Love Again shows proven strategies that can help anyone find love again.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781402265679
Publisher:	Sourcebooks
Publication date:	06/01/2012
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Dr. Terri Orbuch, The Love Doctor®, is a relationship expert and therapist who is the project director for the Early Years of Marriage project, funded by the NIH, a landmark study of marriage, divorce, and repartnering that is unprecedented in its scope. Dr. Orbuch is a research professor at the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, a professor at Oakland University, and is the relationship advisor at OurTime.com. She appears each week on Fox 2-Detroit Morning News in a live, in-studio "Love Doctor" segment and writes blogs and articles at Huffington Post, Psychology Today and other national print outlets. She also is author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments VII

Introduction IX

Step 1 Reset Your Expectations 1

Step 2 Recast Your Past and Start with a Glean Slate 51

Step 3 Commit to a 21-Day Action Plan 83

Step 4 Renew the Real You 119

Step 5 Take a Risk and Make It Real 149

Step 6 Keep It Together over the Long Haul 197

A Look Back, and a Look Forward 233

About the Author 245

Editorial Reviews

"For anyone whose romantic life is in a state of transition, Dr. Orbuch's research-backed, data-driven advice will enable them to turn the corner from in-between to in-love again." - Ian Kerner, CNN Health columnist and NY Times best-selling author of She Comes First

"Loved Finding Love Again! So reassuring, knowledgeable and practical. Divorce is painful and most people need help putting the past in the past and understanding how best to enter a new future. Based on clinical and research experience, this guide to loving again details how to re-approach a new relationship based on the firm footing of Dr. Orbuch's clinical and research experience. There is so much good information and support in these pages- --I highly recommend it!" - Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, the University of Washington, and author of Prime

"Finding Love Again defuncts the relationship myths you grew up with to help you move forward with your love life and leave the past behind." - Julie Spira, online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating

"If yoúve fallen off the relationship horse and been afraid to get back on, fear no more. Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., guides you lovingly and knowingly through the challenges of climbing back into the saddle of relationships, and this time yoúll have all the tools yoúll need to keep riding high. Íve been studying marriages and relationships for most of my career, but I am always pleased to find therés something new to learn from Terrís books." - Scott Haltzman, MD, psychiatrist and author of The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity

"In Finding Love Again, Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., uses findings from her decades-long landmark study of newly married people to offer a plethora of useful advice on coping and renewal to singles recovering from divorces and relationship break-ups...this book is a gift that singles and their loved ones will want to share and keep handy, as Orbuch and her work offer one antidote to the flux in close relationships that shows no signs of abating in the 21st century." - John H. Harvey, Professor of Psychology, Emeritus, University of Iowa

""Orbuch helps readers understand why men and women are hardwired for conflict, why communication is important in every relationship, and why committing to any change in one's daily routine for 21 days can help find new love... A Great starting place for anyone reentering the dating arena."" - Library Journal

""... Dr. Orbuch's study findings are quite fascinating and surprising." " - BlogCritics.org

From the Publisher

In her latest book, relationship expert and therapist Orbuch (sociology, Univ. of Wisconsin, Madison; 5 Simple Steps To Take Your Marriage from Good to Great) addresses those newly returned to dating life who want to find loving partners, offering advice on how to rebuild life from the inside out. In serious-minded chapters that read like gripping fiction, Orbuch helps readers understand why men and women are hardwired for conflict, why communication is important in every relationship, and why committing to any change in one's daily routine for 21 days can help find new love. She gives practical tips on such things as dating for single parents, online dating, and conversation starters for first dates. VERDICT A great starting place for anyone reentering the dating arena.

Library Journal