How You Feel Is Up To You: The Power of Emotional Choice / Edition 2

by Don Dinkmeyer

Overview

We human folk create many of our own emotions by our thoughts, and we can -- more or less -- decide how we want to feel. (Those of us with a cognitive bent have believed that for some time.) This new edition of How You Feel Is Up To You provides practical information and tools to help readers take responsibility for their emotions, including enhanced awareness of feelings, and step-by-step methods for choosing and changing feelings. Helps feelings become an asset ("I can manage") rather than a liability ("I'm a victim").

Chapter summaries coach the reader in becoming an "ACE" -- ACCEPTING your feelings, CHOOSING new purposes, beliefs, feelings, and EXECUTING your choices.

How You Feel Is Up To You (Second Edition) will be a helpful resource for:

• Individuals who are depressed, anxious, stressed, hostile
• Family members and friends of such persons
• Those who counsel or work with individuals who don't understand their feelings
• Curious readers who want to know more about how feelings work

About the Authors:

Gary D. McKay, PH.D. (Tucson, Arizona), is the co-author of eleven books and programs, including Raising Respectful Kids In A Rude World and Systematic Training For Effective Parenting (STEP), the world's leading parent education program. He is a licensed psychologist and a diplomate in Adlerian psychology (North American Society of Adlerian Psychology). Dr. McKay has conducted workshops for his publications in North America and Europe.

Don Dinkmeyer, Sr., PH.D. (1924-2001), was a pioneer in the fields of elementary school counseling, Adlerian psychotherapy, classroom guidance, parent education, group counseling and marriage enrichment. He authored and co-authored 35 books and 125 professional journal articles, as well as psychological education programs like STEP in the areas of parenting, marriage enrichment, classroom guidance, and teaching. Dr. Dinkmeyer received lifetime achievement awards from several professional organizations.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	2901886230506
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	08/01/2002
Edition description:	Second Edition, Revised
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 1.25(h) x 9.00(d)

About the Author

Gary D. McKay, PhD, is the coauthor of eleven books and programs including Raising Respectful Kids in a Rude World and Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (STEP), the world's leading parent education program. He is a licensed psychologist and a diplomate in Adlerian psychology (North American Society of Adlerian Psychology.) Dr. McKay has conducted workshops for his publications in North America and Europe.

Don Dinkmeyer, Sr., PhD, (1924-2001) was pioneer in the fields of elementary school counseling, Adlerian psychotherapy, classroom guidance, parent education, group counseling and marriage enrichment. He authored and coauthored 35 books and 125 professional journal articles as well as psychological education programs like STEP in the areas of parenting, marriage enrichment, classroom guidance, and teaching. Dr. Dinkmeyer received lifetime achievement awards from several professional organizations.

Table of Contents

1	How You Feel Is Up To You	1
2	It's the Thought That Counts: How Your Beliefs Create Your Feelings	20
3	When Feelings Hurt: First Aid for Emotional Wounds	42
4	Guilt: The Great Wall	50
5	Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion	61
6	Depression: Beyond the Blues	88
7	Stress: You Can't Afford Not to Relax	107
8	Anxiety: The Only Thing We Have to Fear	131
9	Joy: The Pursuit of Happiness and Humor	145
10	In Your Mind's Eye: Using Visualization to Change Feelings	166
11	Telling It Like It is: Communicating Feelings	184
12	Working It Out: Feelings and Conflict Solving	208
13	Conclusion: "Is How I Feel Really up to Me?"	230
Appendix A	Daily Feeling Log	234
Appendix B	Purposes of Common Unpleasant Emotions	239
	Index	245

Editorial Reviews

Readers who are tired of anger, depression, guilt, and all the other familiar negative emotions will find How You Feel Is Up To You an effective teacher of the skills they need for making healthier and happier choices.

Midwest Book Review

...a practical self-improvement 'tool kit' to help handle guilt, anger, depression, stress and anxiety... While this book is intended to help readers deal with a variety of personal problems, it is also an eye opener in considering how others around you may feel.

Rocky Ford Gazette

“The best little self-help book I've seen in a long time.”
—Bernard H. Shulman, MD, Adler School of Professional Psychology

“Readers who are tired of anger, depression, guilt, and all the other familiar negative emotions will find HOW YOU FEEL IS UP TO YOU an effective teacher of the skills they need for making healthier and happier choices.”
—THE MIDWEST BOOK REVIEW

“McKay and Dinkmeyer lay out, in simple steps, how to become aware of your deepest feelings, manage strong negative emotions and choose to increase joy and happiness instead of dwelling on past pain.”
—NEWSMAKER INTERVIEWS

“..well-considered manual that critics are calling, ‘one of the best self-help books in years.’&rdquot;
—JOINT FORCES JOURNAL

“Unusually clear and practical methods to help you overcome emotional problems and lead a hell of an enjoyable life!”
—Albert Ellis, PhD, President, Albert Ellis Institute, New York City

“...provides practical information and tools to help readers take responsibility for their emotions, including enhanced awareness of feelings, and step-by-step methods for choosing and changing feelings.&rdquot;
—THE ADDICTION LETTER

“...a practical self-improvement ‘tool kit’ to help handle guilt, anger, depression, stress and anxiety... While this book is intended to help readers deal with a variety of personal problems, it is also an eye opener in considering how others around you may feel.&rdquot;
—ROCKY FORD GAZETTE, Rocky Ford, CO

“...a winner! Research and clinical experience convincingly demonstrate that self-help books make a difference in people's lives. This book is clearly one of the best to be published in a long time.”
—Len Sperry, MD, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry, Medical College of Wisconsin

“Dinkmeyer and McKay have again provided a gem of a book. This time they provide practical advice for how to choose the life you want to have. Although others have addressed the area of responsibility, this book is readable and understandable by a full spectrum of readers.”
—Jon Carlson, PsyD, EdD, ABPP, Distinguished Professor, Governors State University, IL

“...I would recommend this book 'off the shelf' to anyone looking for help in making emotional changes in their life...”
—Robert Armstrong, The NASAP Newsletter, The North American Society of Adlerian Psychology

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