| Foreword by Rebecca St. James | 9 |
| Introduction | 11 |
| Part One: I Kissed Dating Goodbye |
| 1. Smart Love | 17 |
| Beyond What Feels Good, Back to What Is Good |
| 2. The Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating | 29 |
| Recognizing Dating's Negative Tendencies |
| 3. A New Attitude | 45 |
| Five Attitude Changes to Help You Avoid Defective Dating |
| Part Two: The Heart of the Matter |
| 4. Looking Up "Love" in God's Dictionary | 55 |
| Learning the True Definition of Love |
| 5. The Right Thing at the Wrong Time Is the Wrong Thing | 73 |
| How to Keep Impatience from Robbing You of |
| the Gift of Singleness |
| 6. The Direction of Purity | 87 |
| How to Get on the Road to Righteousness |
| 7. A Cleansed Past: The Room | 103 |
| How Jesus Can Redeem Your Past |
| Part Three: Building A New Lifestyle |
| 8. Starting with a Clean Slate | 111 |
| Four Important Steps for Getting on Track with God'sPlan |
| 9. Just Friends in a Just-Do-It World | 121 |
| Keys for Keeping Your Relationships with the |
| Opposite Sex out of the "Romantic Zone" |
| 10. Guard Your Heart | 133 |
| How to Fight the Pollutants of Lust, |
| Infatuation, and Self-Pity |
| 11. "You Don't Date? What Are You,Nuts?" | 149 |
| What to Do When People Ask Why You |
| Don't Play the Dating Game |
| Part Four: Now What? |
| 12. Redeeming the Time | 163 |
| Making the Most of Your Singleness |
| 13. Ready for the Sack but Not for the Sacrifice | 177 |
| How to Have a Biblical and Realistic Vision of Marriage |
| 14. What Matters at Fifty? | 189 |
| Character Qualities and Attitudes that |
| Matter Most in a Life Partner |
| 15. Principled Romance | 203 |
| Principles that Can Guide You from Friendship to Matrimony |
| 16. Someday I'll Have a Story to Tell | 223 |
| Writing a Love Story You'll Feel Proud to Tell |
| Notes | 229 |
| Acknowledgments | 233 |
| About the Author | 235 |
