Table of Contents
Part 1 The Theory In Context
Therapy, Love and Art 1
Theory 6
Other Centredness in Brief 10
The Influence of Carl Rogers
The Theories of Carl Rogers 13
The Concerns of Rogers' followers 15
Origin of Theory that the Necessary Condition is Love 18
Love Drive and the Actualising Tendency 21
Ego, Libido and Esteem Theory 26
Sublimation
Redirection or Highest Fulfilment 31
Defeat and the Fullness of Love 33
Philosophical Note 35
Part 2 The Nature of Esteem
Unconditionality-For Nothing 37
To Feel Alive 42
Esteem 45
Expression of Esteem 48
Disappointment of Love
Love Meets with Obstacles 50
The Neglected Child 54
False Guilt 55
Obstacles Though Life 57
Rogerian Ambivalence Concerning Education 60
Ideas of Self esteem, Self love and Self regard 64
Part 3 Art, Culture & Spirit
Esteem Theory and Cultural Appreciation
The Happy Artist and the Troubled Artist 68
T.S.Eliot 69
Saigyo 70
Sincerity in Art 71
Art and Goodness 74
Art as Imitation 76
Esteem and Spirituality
The Story of the Samurai Tadatsumi 78
The Story of the Prostitute of Muro 79
Sustaining Love 82
Love as Moral Progress
Non Arrival: Progress Toward Perfect Love 83
Singularity of the Love Object 87
Happiness is Not the Goal 93
The Question of Tragedy 95
Part 4 Developing Theory & Practice
Love and Different Kinds of Esteem 97
Expression of Love in a Tradition 99
Object Relations
The Client's Natural Flow 101
The Self is a Function of Other Regard 104
Object Centred Response 106
Object Centred Enquiry 110
The Pain of Love and Defending Against it 114
Dimensions of Love 117
Recognising Lovability: Perceiving anddiscerning lovable features in the other 118
Enduring Esteem: Carrying an attitude within oneself of positive esteem toward the other 119
Truth and Mystery: Respect for the other as a being who, while independent of oneself in many ways, is, as oneself, subject to conditions beyond personal control 120
Otherness: Recognising that the other is indeed other 121
Dimensions of Love Lacking as Diagnostic Categories
Enmeshment 125
Disrespect 127
Dishonesty, Resentment & Bitterness 128
Inability to perceive what is lovable in the Other 129
Part 5 Issues of Transference & Technique
Aesthetic Distance and Oestrostasis 130
A Protocol for Object Related Therapy 132
Transference: Therapist as Object
The Idea of Transference 135
The Transference Controversy in the Person-Centred
Approach 138
Transference as a Transition to (Re-)Loving 141
Building Character 143
Grief and Contrition 146
Esteem Between Therapist and Client
Modelling and Imitation 149
Response Learning 150
Techniqueless Therapy?
The Impotence of Technique 154
Technique Nonetheless 157
Staleness and Technique 162
Part 6 In Conclusion, A Glimpse of the Meaning of Life 167
Bibliography 176
Glossary 181
Index 186
Internet Access 199
