Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex

by Tina Horn

Overview

Love Not Given Lightly is the first collection of nonfiction stories from award-winning filmmaker, journalist, and advocate Tina Horn. In her vast experience in sexual undergrounds, Tina has befriended pro-dommes, porn stars, kinky fetishists, rent boys, and more. Instead of writing a sex worker memoir, she opted to tell the stories of the people she met along the way. Illuminating human issues of desire, gender, beauty, and ultimately friendship, the stories in this book will do no less than alter the way you think about modern sexuality in America.

Tina Horn is a writer, educator, and interdisciplinary media-maker. She co-created, produced, and directed QueerPorn.Tv, which has won two Feminist Porn Awards and was nominated for an AVN. Her writing has appeared in several Cleis Press anthologies, including Best Sex Writing 2015. She has blogged for Vice, Nerve, and Fleshbot and published articles in the Believer, AORTA, Up and Coming, and Whore! magazines. She holds an MFA in creative nonfiction rriting from Sarah Lawrence College. Originally from Northern California, Tina now lives in Manhattan.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780990557104
Publisher:	Stone Bridge Press
Publication date:	05/12/2015
Pages:	148
Product dimensions:	5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x (d)

About the Author

Tina Horn is a writer, educator, interdisciplinary media-maker, queer punk, and true karaoke believer. She produces and hosts “Why Are People Into That?!”, a podcast that demystifies desire. In 2010, she co-created, produced, and directed a project called QueerPorn.Tv, which won two Feminist Porn Awards and a Cinekink Award, in addition to being nominated for an AVN. Tina holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence College. Her writing has appeared in several Cleis Press anthologies, including Best Sex Writing 2015; she has also blogged for Vice, Nerve, Helix Queer Performance Network, Fleshbot and Gaga Stigmata, and published articles in The Believer, AORTA, and Whore! magazines. Over the past five years, Tina’s workshops on dirty talk, sex worker self care, and spanking have been featured at a variety of international venues, including Good Vibrations, Perverts Put Out, Red Umbrella Diaries, UC Berkeley, Lesbian Sex Mafia, Dark Odyssey, and the Feminist Porn Conference at University of Toronto. She lives in NYC.

Table of Contents

Who the hell Is Tina Horn? Introduction 11

James Darling: Gender 19

The Gates: Community 45

Bianca Stone: Hair 75

Nigel Matthews: Desire 99

Quina Cassidy: Friendship 127

Acknowledgments 145

Editorial Reviews

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"Love Not Given Lightly is compelling and oh-so-readable. Whether you know of and partake of this world or not, Horn’s portraits are deeply moving in their tender look at human sexuality and connection. "—LAMBDA Literary Review

"It’s not all glitter and orgasms–there’s vice and pain in there, too. But the sparkles and the pleasure might just make it worthwhile."—LynseyG

"Tina Horn is a compelling public speaker and ingenious educator. Her writing on BDSM and sex worker rights explores some of the most important social issues of our time. In her writing and on her podcast, she manages to make complex issues accessible without dumbing anything down. Having worked with her at several sexuality conferences, I can attest that she is as professional as she is original."—Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and Opening Up, host of Sex Out Loud on The VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network, founder and producer of The Feminist Porn Conference.

“Tina Horn transmutes experiences most people have never had into tasty brain candy and challenging, informative walks on the wild side. I’d trust this writer to take me pretty much anywhere.”—Carol Queen, PhD, author of Real Live Nude Girl and The Leather Daddy and the Femme

"Tina Horn reverently unearths the details of the lives of the sex workers she profiles, revealing fetishes, passions, kinks, and quirks from an insider perspective. She showcases the artistry inherent in their jobs, lives, and sexuality, and by doing so opens up these underground worlds to curious readers."—Rachel Kramer Bussel, author of Sex & Cupcakes, editor of The Big Book of Orgasms

"Tina Horn is a sexual sponge. She's the Neil deGrasse Tyson of a sexual cosmos, absorbing carnal knowledge and disseminating it to the masses with narration that leaves us marveling at the glory that is human sexuality. In Love Not Given Lightly, the portraits of sex workers are lovingly memorialized by her zestful, page-turning narration. Every person experiencing this world should be lucky enough to have their life chronicled by the mastery of Tina Horn. I hope I'm next!"—Jiz Lee, genderqueer porn performer and author of How to Come Out Like a Porn Star

As a series of character portraits, Love Not Given Lightly couldn't be more important. Tina’s cast of real-life characters cuts close to the frontiers of how we think about sexuality in the professional, psychological, and erotic sense. Tina brings the same crystal-clear take to the chapters that you see in her guides to BDSM and alternative sexuality for 4UMag.com. The sexually adventurous will have a hard time not liking it, even if they’re not big into bruises and golden showers like, personally.—Caitlin Donohue, co-editor of 4UMag

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