More Than Saying I Love You: 4 Powerful Steps That Help Children Love Themselves

by Andrea Goodman Weiner

Overview

Like most parents, we tell our children that we love them and we believe that speaking those words will translate into our children to continue loving themselves. We believe that if something is said over and over again it will gain validity and that our children would then internalize that “I love you” and from that create a healthy self-love.Self-love is not the same as being self-centered, egotistical, or narcissistic. What would it look like to have a generation of children that practiced self-love? They would be caring and loving towards others as well as themselves.They would appreciate their talents and be accepting of who they are. By being accepting and compassionate towards themselves, they can in turn be the same towards their friends, classmates, siblings, and parents. Their self-worth and high self-esteem becomes a by product of their self-love.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781936487158
Publisher:	Green, Franklin Publishing
Publication date:	01/30/2011
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
File size:	4 MB

About the Author

Dr. Andrea "Andie" Weiner began her career as a child and family therapist at a community mental health center, where she worked with children of all ages and their families. While there, she created an early intervention program which focused on developing and honing interpersonal and social interaction skills for young children whose parents or siblings were undergoing treatment. Dr. Weiner's experience with these families ignited an ongoing interest in the lifelong benefits people derive when they are taught interpersonal skills as children. Dr. Weiner's research concentrated on various modes of intelligences, in particular emotional intelligence, which she found most fascinating. She is currently President of Emotionally Smart Beginnings LLC that is dedicated to bringing Power2relate™ products that teach children, their families and educators the important skills of emotional intelligence.

Read an Excerpt

From my early commitment to teach this to my daughter, I have taken what I have learned and have shared many of the simple, but powerful strategies that are discussed within each chapter to thousands of parents around the country. My motivation to finally write this book was spurned by a conversation between my daughter and myself after reading an answer to a college application essay that she wrote. Aly’s essay discussed what self-love has created in her life. Having been raised with many of the strategies that are discussed in this book, self-love is something that she has never questioned - it’s as natural as breathing to her. After she said to me, “Mom, I know I love myself but how did you teach me this?”, I felt that this was the opportunity to share with her not only my journey as a parent but also the ways that helped remind her of her birthright of love.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Prologue xv

Introduction 3

Step 1 Creating Internal Appreciation

1 Great Expectations 11

2 Bring on the Blue Chips 21

3 I Love Me...Who Do You Love? 31

Step 2 Instilling Empathetic Acceptance

4 I Am Who I Am ... And You Ain't Gonna Change Me 49

5 To Be or Not to Be... That Is the Question 59

Step 3 Embracing Truth or Consequences

6 If I Think It, It Must Be True (lol) 73

7 Creating Our Best Choices 85

Step 4 Living Loving Kindness

8 Bring Back That Lovin' Feeling 99

Epilogue 111

Appendix 115

Recommended Resources 117