OMG! We're Pregnant: Book I The Psychological Survival Guide for Parents

by Paul Peebles

Overview

While there is no shortage of books detailing the joys and challenges of giving birth and raising children, few focus squarely on the internal and emotional state of the parents. In OMG! We’re Pregnant, acclaimed parent expert Dr. Paul Peebles delves into the deepest fears and anxieties that parents-to-be often experience but are hesitant to talk about. Dr. Peebles sheds light on such concepts and issues as The Intruder Complex (who is this strange, tiny creature now running my life?), meddling friends and family, and how bonding works for both mothers and fathers. While being pregnant and giving birth are often joyous and momentous occasions, Dr. Peebles expertise offers answers and peace-of-mind around the trickier questions.

Becoming a parent is a Rite of Passage, with many highs and lows, joys and fears, feelings and frustrations. This book, by and for all parents and first in the landmark series The Psychological Survival Guide for Parents, is an inclusive, modern guide for the modern family.

Book I in this series in progress covers insights into and coping concepts for: “Wish versus Reality conflicts;” The Intimacy Drive; The Grading System; (newborn) Temperament, the Great Modulator; Coping Mechanisms; Calming Techniques; Parental Sex; Grandparents: the Usurper Perception; the self-defeating Success Neurosis; and much more!

It is about relationships, and OMG intrusions into those relationships.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780997076219
Publisher:	Pediatric Care Publications, LLC
Publication date:	06/06/2017
Series:	Psychological Survival Guide for Parents , #1
Pages:	178
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.63(d)

About the Author

Dr. Paul Peebles is a husband, father, grandfather, and renowned Pediatrician and Pediatric Hematology-Oncologist. He trained at Harvard's Boston Children's Hospital and studied under Dr. Benjamin Spock at University Hospitals (Cleveland). He has carried for tens of thousands of children and their parents since 1967. As a researcher, he has worked at the Karolinska Institute (Stockholm) and as a Senior Investigator at National Institutes of Health (Washington, DC). He is the author of many articles, some published in Nature and Science and is a member of the prestigious Society for Pediatric Research. He is currently Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at Children's National Medical Center of George Washington University's School of Medicine (Washington, DC) and founder and Director Emeritus of the Pediatric Care Center and Young Adult Care Center in Bethesda, Maryland. In Washingtonian magazine, his peers have elected him as "one of the area's leading primary care physicians."

Table of Contents

List of Anecdotes

Terminology

Part I

Pregnancy: Preparation for the Rite

Chapter I: Pregnancy and the Psychological Development

of Today’s Parents

The Development of Intimacy

The Seed Grows

Difficulties Developing Intimacy

Losses and Fears

Chapter II: Pregnancy and the Genesis of the Infant’s Psyche

Nurturing the Pre-Born

In Utero Stimulation

In Utero Activity and Temperament

Chapter III: Pregnancy and the Reactions of Others

The Extended Family

“Old Wives’ Tales” Begin

The Baby Shower Ritual

The Grading System, the Beginning of Competition

Chapter IV: Coping Concepts for Pregnancy

Surviving the Intruder Complex

Enhancers of Attachment

How Do We Prepare Our Older One for

This Upcoming Child?

Wish Versus Reality

Part II

The Miraculous Rite

Chapter V: Not Only Is a Baby Born But Parents Emerge

The Miracle Happens

The Loss of Invincibility

So…What Kind of Grade Did I Get?

The Hospital: A Secure Place?

Breast Feelings: Initially A Test of Confidence

Unable to Be Happy About Success?

Chapter VI: The Genesis of the Newborn’s Psyche

What Is Bonding and Attachment?

What Is a Newborn Like?

Temperament: The Great Modulator

Chapter VII: Others React

Family Expectations

Belittling Grandparents

The Intrusion of the Extended Family

Conflicting Advice

Chapter VIII: Coping Concepts for Surviving the Baby Bomb

Bonding Enhancements at Delivery

Surviving the Intruder Complex Using the Paternal Instinct

Surmounting Glitches

Should I Breast-feed?

Managing the Extended Family

Adjustment to Temperament

Calming Techniques

Wish Versus Reality Revisited

The Humor…of Narcissistic Rejection

Adoption

Helping the Older Sibling Survive

What Is This Book About?

Prevention

Relationships

Prisms

Starting Point

The Methods for Survival

The Structure of the Book and Series

Why Write This Book Series?

Glossary

Index

Points Regarding Content and Investigation Methods

Parents’ Responsibilities

The Author

Editorial Reviews

“I think it’s a delight.” “[It] is direct and easy to read. It’s aimed at both parents and gives them easy access to what they can do for their child.”

—T. Berry Brazelton, MD, Professor Emeritus, Children’s Hospital, Boston, Harvard School of Medicine

“Thank you so much for sharing [this book] with us. You address so many important issues. We especially enjoyed the parts where you address The Intruder Complex and the father’s reactions to this whole introduction to parenting. It’s a truly wonderful book, and a book one can’t find. Most books available seem to only address the mother’s nutritional needs, symptoms of pregnancy, etc. . . . Your book is truly unique and we appreciate your thoughtfulness.”

—Nellie and David Allnutt, the first first-time pregnant couple to read the proofs of this book

“Thank you . . . It is an outstanding contribution. It provides the insights and advice that enables parents to support their child by learning how to deal with the challenges that child rearing poses to all who take on this wondrous responsibility.”

—Philip A. Pizzo, MD, Professor of Pediatrics, Physician-in-Chief, Children’s Hospital, Boston, Harvard School of Medicine

“This book is must reading for professionals as well as parents. Your mix of experience and theoretical knowledge is blended beautifully to present some of the important affective issues that are omitted in our medical training. This book allows parents to have feelings and to know that what they are feeling is developmentally normal.”

—Larrie W. Greenberg, MD, Director, Office of Medical Education, Children’s National Medical Center, Washington, DC

“A Goldmine of Information”

“As a pediatrician with forty-two years in primary pediatric practice, I find this to be the best book I have read for new parents. The author describes the ups and downs parents have as they experience life with a new baby. No matter what one's mood or reaction is, readers will find information here that will convince them that they are quite normal. He even mentions that many men have morning sickness and food fads during a wife's pregnancy! Interspersed with the description of the common moods experienced by new parents, there are many important practical recommendations for caring for a new baby. I can think of no better gift for expectant couples.

The late Morris A. Wessel M.D., Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, Yale Medical School New Haven, Conn.

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