Sex Happens: The Gay Man's Guide to Creative Intimacy

by Arlen Keith Leight

Overview

When gay men start dating, the Sex Happens. All the other relationship stuff hits the fan later. If you've picked up this book, it's later. And if that stuff is starting to get in the way of your relationship (and the sex), it's time to get to work. (Don't worry—this work won't be easy, but it could be fun.)

Do you see yourself in one of these situations?
• Coupled, but dissatisfied with your sexual connection
• Coupled, with difficulty communicating
• Coupled, in conflict
• Coupled, but looking for new ways to create intimacy and connect physically
• Coupled, looking for an exclusive or open sexual relationship contract
• Coupled, but unsure about staying in your relationship
• Single, hoping for a way to sidestep some of the pitfalls of long-term relationships

Sex Happens is a book for any gay man at a turning point in his relationship life. Think of it as months of working with a clinical sex therapist, but without having to pay for the weekly sessions.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781626523845
Publisher:	Langdon Street Press
Publication date:	11/12/2013
Pages:	294
Product dimensions:	7.70(w) x 11.50(h) x 1.10(d)

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction xi

Be Honest with Yourself and Be Honest with Your Partner

Part 1 Consciousness and Communication: The Fundamental Components of Creative Intimacy

Chapter 1 Man-to-Man Relationships: Unique Challenges and Obstacles to Intimacy 3

Chapter 2 Where Did the Passion Go? How Sexual Intimacy Evolves or Dissolves 23

Chapter 3 Creative Intimacy through Dialogue: Exercises for Expansive Communication of Feelings and Emotions 41

Part 2 Creative Sexual Enhancement

Chapter 4 Sexual Desire vs. Sexual Disorder 41

Chapter 5 The Sensual Journey: Seven Exercises for Creative Intimacy 91

Chapter 6 Creative Intimacy: Fun, Frolic and Fantasy 133

Part 3 Creative Relationship Re-Contracting

Chapter 7 Relationship Paradigms and Contracts: Creative Intimacy and Permission to Choose 157

Chapter 8 Developing Your Creative Relationship Agreement 177

Chapter 9 Relationship Sabbatical: A Creative Solution for Mending or Ending 211

Afterword 227

Appendix 1 Evolution of a Relationship 229

Appendix 2 Inventory of Feelings 231

Appendix 3 Dialogue Analysis from Chapter Three 235

Appendix 4 Effects of Angle of Entry on Rectal Insertion 243

Appendix 5 Example Relationship Agreement 245

Appendix 6 Example Addendum to the Relationship Agreement 249

Appendix 7 Example Sabbatical Agreement 251

References 255

Index 261