Sex Over 50 (Updated and Expanded)

by Joel D. Block

Overview

There are 78 million people now crossing the 50-year mark, and they're redefining middle age and creating a new vision of what a fulfilling sex life means. Sex Over 50 speaks to this legion of gracefully aging Americans who are looking for professional, practical advice on how to make the transition to deeper, richer, more sophisticated sexual relationships. This edition includes a new chapter on the dating scene for Boomers, as well as updated information on hormone replacement therapy and erectile dysfunction.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781440634987
Publisher:	Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:	08/05/2008
Sold by:	Penguin Group
Format:	eBook
Pages:	352
Sales rank:	401,662
File size:	369 KB
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Joel D. Block, Ph.D., is a nationally renowned psychotherapist, working extensively with couples and individuals in his private practice on Long Island, New York. The author of five books, including Secrets of Better Sex, he is also a diplomat of the American Board of Professional psychology and a supervisor on the staff of the Human Sexuality Center of Long Island Jewish Medical Center.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The Best Years of Your Sex Life     xi
Create a Sexy Frame of Mind     1
The 12 Myths About Sex Over 50-And the Corresponding Truths     2
Overcoming the Mental Obstacles to Great Sex     7
Removing Boredom from Your Life     9
Tying It Together     13
Five Tips for Creating a Sexy Mind-Set     14
We're Still Sexy     15
The Building Blocks of Passion     17
Tear Down the Old Foundation and Create a Positive Sex Foundation     19
How to Build Sexual Self-Esteem     20
Four Sexual Self-Esteem Exercises     24
Why Enthusiasm Encourages Passion     26
The Hidden Sexual Potential of Optimism     26
Five Tips for Making Sex More Playful     28
Conquering the Three Emotions That Sap Sexual Energy     28
Overcoming Five Fears That Steal Passion     29
Sex Play     31
Take Charge of Your Sexuality     33
The Sex and Stress Connection     34
Seven Sexy Stress Busters     36
The Intimacy Fear     37
Let Go of the Need to Control     39
Ten Tips for Creating an Electric Sexual Atmosphere     40
How to Become an EroticConsumer     41
Develop Your Own Erotic Lesson Plan     43
The Take-Charge Lover     46
Games for Mature Lovers     48
Reading Your Partner's Sexual Rhythms     49
How to Flirt Shamelessly with Your Mate     49
How to Behave Like a Teenager in Lust     50
Be a Tease     51
Improving Her Oral Lovemaking Skills     53
Improving His Oral Lovemaking Skills     56
How to Give Your Partner Manual Pleasure     58
The Joy of Mutual Masturbation     62
Five Top Vibrator Tips     63
The Love Game     65
Improving Intercourse     67
Seven Tips for Hotter Loveplay     68
The Intercourse Positions     69
The Dynamics of Thrusting     75
Her Coital Dynamic Power     77
Six Secret Hot Spots-And How to Ignite Them     78
Four Additional Ways of Enhancing Intercourse at Midlife     80
Take Me, I'm Yours     83
Don't Have Sex, Make Love     85
First, Clear the Emotional Air     86
Awaken Each Other's Senses     88
Create Erotic Trust     91
Master the Art of Surrender      95
Turn Up the Emotional Heat     96
The Love Encounter     99
The Power of Midlife Sexual Fantasies     101
Why Fantasies Have Such Erotic Power     102
Top Ten Midlife Sex Fantasies     105
Should You Share Your Fantasies?     107
Should You Act Out Your Fantasies?     108
Erotic Role Playing     110
Seven Steps for Connecting Fantasy to Reality     113
Overcoming a Negative Fantasy Experience     114
My Secret Sin     116
Getting in Sync with Your Partner Again     118
Accept Being Out of Sync     120
How Being Out of Sync Affects Sex     121
The Relationship-Synchrony Quiz     124
Common Midlife Situations That Get in the Way of Sex     126
How to Reconnect in Bed     130
Five Steps for Getting in Sexual Sync     131
How to Use Afterplay to Improve Your Relationship     135
Making Time for Love     136
Stretching Your Sexual Boundaries     138
Measuring Your Sexual Boundaries     139
The Sexual-Boundaries Quiz     140
How to Have More Sex     141
Ten Steps for Increasing Desire     143
How to Put the Sex Back in a Sexless Marriage     144
How to Get in the Mood for Love     146
Exploring Alternative Forms of Loveplay     147
Ten Places to Have Sex Out of Bed     155
The Bonds of Love     158
The Unlimited Potential of Midlife Orgasm     160
The Midlife Orgasm     161
The Orgasm Quiz     162
How to Build New Pathways to Orgasm     163
Extending Your Orgasm Time     166
Multiple Orgasms at Midlife     167
How to Have an Extragenital Orgasm     174
How to Have a Spontaneous Orgasm     175
How to Have the Ultimate Orgasm: A Full-Body Orgasm     176
The Simultaneous Orgasm     177
Is One Orgasm Better Than Another?     179
Come Again     180
Sex and Hormones     182
How Hormones Affect Sexuality     183
Conquering Common Hormone-Related Sex Problems in Women     185
Evaluating Hormone-Replacement Therapy for Women     191
Testosterone-Replacement Therapy     196
Younger Love     200
Overcoming erectile Dysfunction     202
What Erectile Dysfunction Is-And Isn't     203
The Sexual-Response Assessment      204
Seven Ways of Preventing Erectile Dysfunction     207
Four Steps to Restoring Sexual Function     209
How a Woman Can Help     210
The Causes of Erectile Dysfunction     211
Erectile Dysfunction Remedies     215
Beyond Intercourse     228
Sex and Health     230
The Sex Diet     230
How Exercise Influences Sexuality     232
The Health Benefits of Sex     233
The Sexual Effects of Illness and Disability     235
Why a Hysterectomy Doesn't End Your Sex Life     242
Overcoming the Sexual Side Effects of Medications     245
Rejuvenating the Mind-Body Connection     247
Regaining Desire Lost to Illness, Disability, or Physical Signs of Aging     249
Makeover Sex     252
Making the Dating Scene     254
New Beginnings     255
Getting Out There     256
Going Online-Or Not     257
Other Dating Options     260
Ten Great Conversation Starters     262
Eight Safety Precautions     264
Be Real, Stay Real     265
Dating Success     268
Hotel Date     272
Love With Another Partner     274
Six Keys to Staying Sexual Alone     275
How to Become Sexually Active Again with a Partner     276
Overcoming the Obstacles to a New Sexual Relationship     280
How to Avoid STDs     285
The Late Affair     286
Should You Have an Affair?     293
Consequences of the Affair: Should You Leave Your Partner?     295
New Beginnings     300
Keeping the Romance Alive Forever     303
Friendship: The Hidden Component of Romance     304
What Romance Is-And Isn't     305
The Romance Quiz     307
Ten Steps to Rediscovering Romance     308
How to Keep the Romance Alive     310
How Some Couples Never Lose the Magic     312
The Last Words     315
The "Like" Connection     316
Conclusion: You're Still Sexy     318
Index     323