Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It

by Marty Klein Narrated by Alan Winter

Overview

Enjoyable sex: it's not about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. It's about Sexual Intelligence.

In his three decades of working with couples and individuals as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein has continually seen that although most people say what they want from sex is pleasure and closeness, that's not what they focus on during sex. Instead, we're preoccupied with how we look, what our partner is thinking, how we're performing, and whether we're "normal." We do more thinking, worrying, and judging than experiencing. Sex like that can't thrill us, can't create intimacy, and can't, well, feel sexy.

In Sexual Intelligence, Klein shows how to stop observing ourselves during sex, ending our obsession with sexual performance and sexual normality. "I don't help people 'function' better during sex," he says. "I teach people how to relax and enjoy sex with the body they have, the partner they have, in the situation they have." Now that's something we all want: fulfilling, exciting sex at every stage of our lives.

In Sexual Intelligence, Klein challenges our understanding of sex, love, intimacy, romance, and satisfaction. After all, sex isn't just an activity. Change the way you think about sex, and you can change your sex life-forever.

Editorial Reviews

Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader.

Psychology Today

Read this if you want to let go of your inhibitions and improve your sex life. You might have to change your mind-set first, but Klein’s advice, quizzes, diagrams, and case studies will help you do just that.

Esther Perel

Instead of a manual of better tricks, this book is a practical plan to improve your relationship with your sexuality. Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change your sexual experience for good.

Paul Joannides

If you read only one book on sex and relationships during your entire lifetime, this should be it. Dr. Klein confronts the problems that have plagued couples since the beginning of time with refreshingly simple and brilliant insight.

Harriet Lerner

Sexual Intelligence will help you fire the sex cops who have set up roadblocks in your head, and replace them with some good ideas to ponder and put into action. Dr.Klein has truly given us a helpful guide to authentic sexual satisfaction.

Christopher Ryan

Marty Klein’s is a calm voice of reason at the center of the storm raging around sex in America. His tolerant, informed approach to the unavoidable sexual difficulties we all face is a welcome antidote to the panic and ignorance clouding public discussion and private understanding.

Ian Kerner

Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. With beguiling ease, he takes complex issues and distills them down to their essence. Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.

Doctor - Pepper Schwartz

"Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader."

Library Journal

Pursuing sexual expectations that are decades out of date with a body and lifestyle that can't support that vision isn't dysfunction; it's a culturally and psychologically driven mistake. So writes Klein, licensed marriage/family therapist and certified sex therapist, as he proposes a new way of thinking about sexual activity—to leave behind sexual baggage and learn to approach this area of life with awareness, openness, and renewed optimism. He uses his clinical experience and numerous case studies to demonstrate how creating a lasting physical and emotional connection with a partner is so much more important than orgasms. While Klein writes primarily for those over the age of 30, he offers a fresh, commonsense approach that can help most people in long-term relationships.

Product Details

BN ID:	2940170122639
Publisher:	HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:	06/18/2013
Edition description:	Unabridged

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