To Bed or Not To Bed: What Men Want, What Women Want, How Great Sex Happens

by Vera Bodansky

Overview

The differences between the sexes create both fun and tension. Most men want sex, either with a new or current partner. Woman want sex too, but are trained to put up obstacles so as not to seem "easy." TO BED OR NOT TO BED presents specific information on how to use these differences to create more pleasure and intimacy in bed and elsewhere. The authors provide proven sexual and sensual methods used successfully with their clients, including exercises. The book takes readers on a journey that leads not just to the bedroom, but ultimately to a better relationship by showing how to take advantage of special techniques that bring a couple years of pleasure and happiness together.

The book includes a chapter written especially for women, another written especially for men.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781630265816
Publisher:	Turner Publishing Company
Publication date:	12/19/2005
Series:	Positively Sexual
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	176
File size:	2 MB

Editorial Reviews

With "PhDs in sensuality" from an experimental California community named Lafayette Morehouse, the Bodanskys (Extended Massive Orgasm) offer public demonstrations of how men can use manual techniques to give their women extended sexual pleasure. Written in Steve's voice, their latest guide presents good, if rather general, advice about relationships, playing on male/female differences while keeping both sexes on planet Earth. This means that men should please their women sexually and make them happy, and women should have an appetite for life and encourage and train their mates to be "better men." The authors hold that in good relationships partners handle their differences with courtesy; parents should teach their children about the clitoris so that safe, noncoital sex comes easily. The heavy reliance on manual and oral sex techniques, including uses of masturbation, is a welcome change. Unfortunately, the bibliography is not very long or diverse. Optional for larger collections. Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.

Library Journal

"A foundational premise of this book" according to husband and wife authors Steve and Vera Bodansky ( Extended Massive Orgasm and The Illustrated Guide to the Extended Massive Orgasm ) is "our belief that women are not equal to men." It's a gimmicky way of saying men and women approach sex differently; much of the book relies on such hooks, popular in the self-help oeuvre. To wit, each chapter title has something to do with a bed-"Under the Covers" and "Pillow Talk Plus" for example. And yet, the patient reader will be rewarded with some insightful observations about the cultural conditioning, desires and drives of the opposite sex. Topics include becoming a better seducer, giving without keeping score, deliberate versus default pleasure and the importance of integrity in bed. Based on information and ideas from a number of sources, but primarily through the authors' personal experiences and the experiences of people they know, the book is most successful when it veers away from the obvious ("Make eye contact when you are in conversation with a woman") and offers practical advice and tools for establishing-and reinvigorating- intimate contact. These exercises (19 total) combined with the authors' breezy, conversational approach (they use slang where appropriate) make this guide a notable addition to the genre. — Publisher's Weekly

"chapters cover a wide range of subjects for the heterosexual couple, including flirting, appreciation, responsibilities, G-Spot and so much more." — Come As You Are , March 2006

"their latest guide presents good…advice about relationships, playing on male/female differences while keeping both sexes on planet Earth." — Library Journal (February 1, 2006) 

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