When Their World Stops: The Essential Guide to Truly Helping Anyone in Grief

by Mix-Destroyer

Overview

Have a grieving friend and don't know what to say or do? No more fear, or walking on eggshells. This award-winning book will equip the reader to understand what they are experiencing and feeling, say the right things and avoid saying the wrong things, be supportive with appropriate actions and gifts, encourage them during the holidays, write a lovely message in a sympathy card and so much more. Tips are general as well as specific to the loss. Included is a special reminder list for the first year of grief. This simply to read, practical book will give you all you need to take the awkwardness out of grief.

"You will enter this book awkward and unsure - you will emerge a confident, loving and creative advocate for your grieving friend." Dr. Vicki K. Harvey

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780996802413
Publisher:	Comfort For The Hurting
Publication date:	03/30/2016
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	74
File size:	245 KB

About the Author

Anne-Marie Lockmyer lives in Anaheim, California where she is rebuilding her life after the sudden death of her beloved husband of 26 years. Her desire is to help change the way people respond to the grieving and the mentally ill - two areas she knows all too well. She is an advocate and speaker, and works with groups and individuals who have suffered loss by helping them work on recovery. She is an award-winning author and a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist.

Table of Contents

The Back Story. . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

So How Can You Help—Really Help? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

The First Hours and Days After the Loss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .......... . . . . . . . . . 7

What Can You Do, Exactly?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

Conversations. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

As Life Goes On. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23

Sympathy Cards . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32

Summary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

A Few Handy Lists to Remind You How to Help Your Grieving Friend. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

The Blanket of Comfort. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43

Christmas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44

Please Don’t Forget . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49

Appendix

Dealing with Different Types of Losses. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ............ . . . 50

General Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50

Loss of a Spouse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54

Loss of a Sibling . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ................. . . . . . . 55

Miscarriage/Stillbirth. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . 56

Loss of a Child (Young or Adult) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . 57

Midlife Loss of Parents . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58

Loss by Suicide. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60

Loss by Murder. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62

Editorial Reviews

"This book will actually “speak” to you – all of you out there who has either lost a loved one or had to find a way to help/aid/support/comfort a friend who was going through the grieving process. No one knows exactly how to respond to grief. Your friends look away and you can actually feel the tension in the room because there truly is no sure way to comfort someone who has just dealt with a loss of this magnitude. The author took it upon herself to let others know what she learned about grief and offers a “door” to those who are hurt and those who are trying desperately to find the right way to comfort them during this time. These are helpful words and directions that will not solve the issues of grief, but allow you to better understand how to deal with grief and help a friend get through a horrible time. It is a fact that everyone grieves differently, but this author should be commended for tapping into her own traumatic experience to bring others a bit of peace." Feathered Quill Book Reviews

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