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The Love Diet
Expert Techniques for Sensual Pleasure and Mind-blowing Sex
By Mabel Iam HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.
Copyright © 2006 Mabel Iam
All right reserved. ISBN: 0060829990
Chapter One
The Art of Seduction -- Looks, Smiles,
and Other Seduction Techniques
Your body calls to me, your words captivate me, like a love spell. I'm so powerless under your gaze that the farther I get from you, the stronger I feel your magnetic pull, deep within me.
The Essential Ingredients of Seduction
Seduction is the key to success in love, business, friendship, and life in general. In the art of conquering another human being, everybody needs to exercise the same level of discipline and put forth the same effort, regardless of their physical appearance. As in any art, seduction requires training, practice, education, and a clear understanding of human psychology, both at the conscious and the subconscious levels.
There are as many styles of seduction as individual personalities, but at the critical moment of seducing and captivating another person the two essential ingredients that no one can go without are the following.
The Smile
The smile has the uniquely seductive power of being able to conquer just about anyone. The best kind of smile is one that communicates sincerity, since a false smile is easily detected and will always inspire mistrust.
Just like the gaze, a smile can say many different things. Not only synonymous of happiness, a smile can also indicate anxiety, insecurity, and even hostility in disguise. A weak or vacillating smile that doesn't reveal the teeth and is accompanied by an insecure gaze is a sign of timidity and a lack of self-confidence. A repressed smile can send mixed signals, especially when the other person has no idea why we're smiling. It might even come across as mockery.
The Look
Casting an effective seductive gaze requires elegance and subtlety, and it can say more than a thousand words. A clear, sincere, direct, open gaze can attract and fascinate even a person who has initially been a little resistant to your charms. Make sure your look always conveys a certain sweetness, calm, class, and generosity, so that you always radiate confidence, tranquility, and tenderness.
How long a person can hold a gaze also provides us some clues. Insecure people will tend to look away very quickly. When people talk about personal issues, they tend to make less eye contact. But if an insecure person receives a compliment, it's just the opposite: He or she will tend to maintain eye contact, to try to determine whether the person is being sincere.
The way that we look at each other is just as important as actual physical contact. If one looks at another person with a blend of mystery and passion combined with a fresh, provocative smile, it will most certainly have a mesmerizing, attractive effect.
10 Unforgettable Looks
In the art of seduction, visual cues are extremely important. For example, at a party in a room full of people, two people can begin an interaction just by using their eyes -- before even exchanging a word. With just exchanged looks, a romance can begin, questions can be asked, the intent of seduction expressed, and rebuffs can be issued. When two people look at each other, they begin to communicate in a special language, and the most unexpected things can happen.
Here are the different looks that, according to each personality type, can be used as tools of seduction, weapons that won't fail at the critical hour.
- A Caressing Look: Slowly look over the entire body of the person you wish to seduce -- from the feet to the fingertips up to the head -- as if you were caressing his or her entire body with a velvet glove.
- A Mysterious Look: Generate a feeling of mystery around your eyes. Put on a pair of sunglasses, it doesn't matter what kind. Keep the sunglasses on, removing them only to give the person you desire an intense, absorbing look. Don't just look over your glasses; slowly take them off and hold them in your hand, and then suddenly put them back on again. Repeat until you have conquered your target.
- A Distracted Look (especially appropriate for shy people): Look at the object of your desire, then drop your gaze and wait until you feel the other person looking at you. While the other person is looking at you, raise your eyes for a moment, letting him or her see you look at him or her directly for just a few seconds.
- A Look That Kills (especially appropriate for the superconfident): Look the target of your seduction directly in the eye, without any hesitation. While you hold his or her gaze, approach the person. To move in for the kill, simply start a conversation without too much premeditation.
- A Fresh Look (especially appropriate for teens or those new to love): Flutter your eyelashes, like the leading ladies of the old silent movies. Look at the object of your desire, blink a few times, then give an intensely suggestive look before lowering your gaze. Blink again with an unfocused look, giving you a fresh air of sensuality.
- A Fascinating Look: I should confess that this look is my favorite. While I was studying theater, which I did for fifteen years, I decided to give a character a lion's look. I went to the zoo to study the lion, trying to understand the source of his power. I discovered that when a lion looks at people, it devours them with its gaze. That animal has a completely transparent look that, like a giant cat, embodies extraordinary strength. Its look is direct and unblinking, and after a few seconds, its eyes rest on a person and you feel tempted to walk up to it, fascinated by the clear hazel eyes. When I incorporated this look into my interpretation of the character I was playing, the theater professor gave me a very nice compliment. "Mabel, you grasped something beyond the mere physical act of the lion's gaze when you reenacted it, and you will carry that with you for your whole life." Maybe my old professor was right. I think it's fascinating when, in any life situation, one has a clear goal and sets out single-mindedly to accomplish it. . . .
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