Children's Literature

The tricky problem of how to raise children in an interfaith marriage--defined here as one in which parents are of different religions as well as one where both now have the same religion due to a conversion--is often the most heated question such families encounter. The author unequivocally weighs in as a promoter of observing as much as possible from both families' traditions, including close relationships with both sets of extended family. She feels that choosing one faith or the other eventually backfires against both parents and children; that choosing no religion leaves a serious void; that picking and choosing from both creates no respect for either. Gruzen gives numerous examples from her own experience as a Christian married to a Jew and raising a boy and girl as "both" and has done considerable research to buttress her viewpoint. However, bear in mind that she is a majority-culture woman and her support comes from the more liberal sectors of Judaism. She never quotes Orthodox or "traditional" sources, who would surely not agree with her, persuasive as she is. With that caveat, read the book if you're faced with such decisions, and also consult others that offer different opinion. 2001 (orig. 1987), Newmarket, $16.95. Ages Adult. Reviewer: Judy Chernak