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    What Great Parents Do: 75 Simple Strategies for Raising Kids Who Thrive

    What Great Parents Do: 75 Simple Strategies for Raising Kids Who Thrive

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    by Erica Reischer


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      ISBN-13: 9781101992371
    • Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
    • Publication date: 08/16/2016
    • Sold by: Penguin Group
    • Format: eBook
    • Pages: 240
    • File size: 573 KB

    Erica Reischer, PhD, is a psychologist and parent educator. She received her doctorate from the University of Chicago in Psychology/Human Development and is an honors graduate of Princeton University. 
          A former consultant with McKinsey & Company, Dr. Reischer sits on the advisory board for Happy Healthy Kids and leads popular parenting classes at schools and organizations such as UCSF Benioff Children's Hospital, Habitot Children's Museum, and the University of California.
          Her writing about children and families appears in Psychology Today, The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Atlantic. She maintains a private psychology practice in Oakland, California where she lives with her husband and two children.


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    Table of Contents

    Introduction ix

    1 Great parents do what they say they are going to do 1

    2 Great parents do what they know 3

    3 Great parents change themselves first 6

    4 Great parents focus near and far 9

    5 Great parents see parenting as a skill 13

    6 Great parents practice empathy 15

    7 Great parents watch out for "buts" 18

    8 Great parents respect their children's reality 20

    9 Great parents accept their kids just as they are 24

    10 Great parents avoid these toxic phrases 27

    11 Great parents teach kids to feel their feelings and choose their actions 31

    12 Great parents aren't perfect 34

    13 Great parents let kids make mistakes and experience failure 36

    14 Great parents resist the urge to "fix" feelings 40

    15 Great parents take ownership of their feelings 44

    16 Great parents acknowledge their moods and feelings 47

    17 Great parents pay attention 50

    18 Great parents cultivate self-awareness 52

    19 Great parents practice positive touch 54

    20 Great parents help kids develop positive habits 56

    21 Great parents distinguish between goals and methods 60

    22 Great parents show kids the way 63

    23 Great parents don't gratify behavior they don't want repeated 66

    24 Great parents "catch" kids being good (and tell kids specifically what they liked) 68

    25 Great parents discipline lovingly 70

    26 Great parents discipline in private 72

    27 Great parents avoid disciplining when tired or hungry 74

    28 Great parents see the goal of discipline as learning, not punishment 76

    29 Great parents understand that children's brains are different 79

    30 Great parents notice what they say and how they say it 83

    31 Great parents see that actions speak louder than words 85

    32 Great parents practice emotion coaching 88

    33 Great parents promote self-control 93

    34 Great parents view kids as little explorers and scientists 96

    35 Great parents give previews 100

    36 Great parents give kids the benefit of the doubt 102

    37 Great parents share their power 104

    38 Great parents are in charge 107

    39 Great parents maintain a warm and affectionate attitude 109

    40 Great parents treat their kids with respect, consideration, and kindness 112

    41 Great parents expect their kids to treat them with respect, consideration, and kindness 114

    42 Great parents rarely say "Good job!" or "You are so smart!" 116

    43 Great parents (mostly) avoid labels 120

    44 Great parents play it straight 123

    45 Great parents use scaffolding 126

    46 Great parents give a reason 129

    47 Great parents give fair warning 132

    48 Great parents are transparent about their decision-making process 135

    49 Great parents know that reasoning has its limits 138

    50 Great parents harness the power of natural consequences 141

    51 Great parents give speeding tickets 144

    52 Great parents create speed bumps 150

    53 Great parents are consistent 152

    54 Great parents strive to be matter-of-fact 156

    55 Great parents teach happiness habits (and also practice them) 160

    56 Great parents teach kids the three Ps 166

    57 Great parents protect playtime 169

    58 Great parents prioritize sleep 172

    59 Great parents encourage sensible risk taking 175

    60 Great parents encourage their kids to "do good" 178

    61 Great parents avoid power struggles 180

    62 Great parents avoid reward economies 183

    63 Great parents make time to give kids their full attention 188

    64 Great parents take care of themselves 190

    65 Great parents pivot 194

    66 Great parents use placeholders 195

    67 Great parents reframe 197

    68 Great parents focus on the positive 199

    69 Great parents can change the mood (be silly and playful) 201

    70 Great parents avoid drama 203

    71 Great parents stop the action 205

    72 Great parents offer replays 207

    73 Great parents stage rehearsals 210

    74 Great parents focus on the relationship 214

    75 Great parents start where they are 216

    Notes 217

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    A golden rule book to parenting best practices, What Great Parents Do concisely presents key strategies to help parents reshape kids' challenging behaviors, create strong family bonds, and guide children toward becoming happy, kind, responsible adults.

    What Great Parents Do is an everything-you-need-to-know road map for parenting that you will consult again and again. Psychologist Erica Reischer draws on research in child development and cognitive science to distill the best information about parenting today into bite-size pieces with real examples, useful tips, and tools and techniques that parents can apply right away. This book will show you how to do what great parents do so well, including:

    - Great parents start with empathy
    - Great parents accept their kids just as they are
    - Great parents avoid power struggles
    - Great parents see the goal of discipline as learning, not punishment
    - Great parents know they aren't perfect

    A toolbox of the most effective parenting strategies, What Great Parents Do is accessible, actionable, and easy to follow.


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    —Christine Carter, PhD, author of The Sweet Spot and Raising Happiness, and senior fellow at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center

    "Every so often, a book comes out that truly shares our big-picture attitude about raising kids. What Great Parents Do is packed with smart reminders about parenting priorities and how to actually do what you want to do."
    —Diane Debrovner, Deputy Editor, Parents Magazine

    "The great anthropologist Margaret Mead used to say that she could not understand our priorities: We require by law for people to get driving permits, but we allow people to bring up children without demonstrating any aptitude for parenting. If things were to change, Dr. Reischer's book would become an essential Rules of the Road for would-be parents. A well conceived, well researched, and well written handbook."
    —Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Management, Claremont Graduate University, and New York Times bestselling author of Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience

    "Looking for advice on parenting but don’t want to wade through reams of studies? A new book offers help. In What Great Parents Do Erica Reischer offers practical tips in an easy-to-read format, and the strategies are delivered in a nonjudgmental and to-the-point tone."
    —The Washington Post

    "Packed with useful, practical advice and how-to's, this book promises to be one that every parent will wish they had from day one." 
    —Dr. Madeline Levine, New York Times bestselling author of The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well

    “Erica Reischer offers a 'cheat sheet' of best parenting practices. Equipped with her wisdom, we all have the potential to be ‘great parents.’” 
    —Peggy Orenstein, New York Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape and Cinderella Ate My Daughter

    "Covering everything from discipline to encouraging curiosity, Reischer's gentle yet firm model is simple and powerful. Parents who read one tip per day will have a sound rubric for child rearing through the years."
    —Publisher's Weekly

    “Psychologist Reischer’s parenting style might be best described as 'evidence-based.' In her parenting workshops and this book, she distills research on children’s social and emotional development into a set of best parenting practices. She is at her best in the 'Try This' section at the end of each chapter, which includes real-life examples and step-by-step instructions for applying the strategy in a challenging parenting situation. Like many authors of parenting books, Reischer wrote the one book she was unable to find when her first child was born. She has ensured that parents of young children no longer have that problem."
    —Booklist (starred review)

    "As much as parents crave wisdom, we really want someone to have our back in those hard parenting moments. Dr. Erica Reischer delivers. With oodles of great scenarios drawn from real life, it’s like she sees us about to flub up, hits the pause button, and whispers a key piece of advice. Her advice isn’t just about handling kids, though—it’s about how to be more mindful of our own behavior so we can appreciate the impact we’re having on our kids in these moments. Reischer may be offering simple strategies, but the wisdom behind them is incredibly deep and profound."
    —Julie Lythcott-Haims,New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult, and former dean, Stanford University

    "The book to keep on your bedside table." 
    —Greater Good Science Center, University of California Berkeley

    "I breathed a sigh of relief after reading this book—this is the kind of thoughtful, practical guide I've wished for as both a parent and educator. Dr. Reischer has created a set of clear, simple, yet profound pointers toward better parenting."
    —Christopher Balme, former CEO of Spark and cofounder/head of school, Millennium School

    "Dr. Erica Reischer has been teaching fact-filled, action-oriented, and incredibly useful parenting workshops for years now, and parents always leave wanting more.  Even if you already have a collection of parenting books, you'll still want this one."
    —Rachel Kadner, parenting and community partnerships manager, Habitot Children's Museum

    "This is the parenting book you’ve been waiting for. Whether you’re a brand new parent or a veteran with older children, What Great Parents Do condenses the latest research into easy-to-use strategies for parenting that we all need. Dr. Erica Reischer guides us through our most pressing dilemmas as parents—how to cultivate respect in our children, how to help our kids handle strong feelings, how to minimize negative behaviors, how to build independence and close relationships at the same time, and how to create happy family lives."
    —Leslie Bell, PhD, psychotherapist

    "What Great Parents Do by psychologist and parent educator Erica Reischer, touts itself as 'the everything-you-need-to-know road map for parenting that you will consult again and again.' That’s a grand statement, but I agree with her."
    —True Parent Magazine

    "Filled with handy tips and the best tidbits from piles of research on kids’ social and emotional development, consider this book a ‘cheat sheet’ to great parenting. Broken down into action-oriented pieces for easy implementation, backed up by great scenarios from real life, if you’re looking for a map to guide you through the journey of being a parent, What Great Parents Do is a good choice."  
    —Red Tricycle

    "What Great Parents Do is a gem! This practical, easy-to-apply guide offers step-by-step guidance and real-life examples that can transform how you parent. In a sea of parenting books that often make you feel ‘less than,’ this down-to-earth manual will help you feel more confident, excited, and secure on your parenting journey. What a gift!"
    —Renee Peterson Trudeau, author of The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal

    Library Journal
    09/01/2016
    Clinical psychologist and parenting educator Reischer delivers a back-to-basics look at parenting via simple, action-oriented tips and a big-picture perspective. Underlying all of her advice are the "ABCs" of great parenting: acceptance, boundaries, and consistency. Organized by sections such as "Great Parents Cultivate Self Awareness," strategies are accompanied by descriptions of the technique's psychological impact (e.g., people who have developed self-awareness "tend to be more empathetic"). A "try this" section rounds out the volume and provides information that ranges from self-reflection for parents to sample dialogs to tools for avoiding typical outbursts or meltdowns. VERDICT Covering everything from discipline to encouraging curiosity, Reischer's gentle yet firm model is simple and powerful. Parents who read one tip per day will have a sound rubric for child rearing through the years.

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