If I Have to Tell You One More Time...: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

by Amy McCready

Overview

The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids To Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling

Why does it feel sometimes as if our children have special powers that enable them to tune us out completely? You ask your child to do her homework, get ready for school or bedtime. You think she heard you but . . . no response. You’ve tried everything—time-outs, nagging, counting to three—and nothing seems to work. In this invaluable book, Amy McCready, founder of the popular online parenting course Positive Parenting Solutions, presents a nag-and-scream-free program for compassionately yet effectively, correcting your children’s bad behavior.

McCready draws on Adlerian psychology and Positive Discipline, which focuses on the central idea that every human being has a basic need to feel connected and empowered—children being no exception to the rule. According to McCready, when this need isn’t met in positive ways, kids resort to negative methods. In this book she provides parents with a virtual toolbox of strategies they can use to give their children the attention and power they crave—and do away with the misbehaving that adults dread.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780399160592
Publisher:	Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:	08/30/2012
Pages:	320
Sales rank:	151,867
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

Amy McCready reaches a worldwide audience with her online Positive Parenting Solutions courses and webinars as well as regular television and radio appearances, including NBC’s Today show, Rachael Ray, MSNBC’s Dr. Nancy, Fox & Friends, CNN’s Headline News, and Parenting with Ann Pleshette Murphy for ABC News NOW. A regular parenting contributor to the Today Moms blog, she lives with her husband and two teenage boys in Raleigh, North Carolina.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

1 Something's Not Working 1

2 Kids Are People, Too 18

3 Are You Making Your Child's Behavior Worse? 47

4 Bringing Out the Best in Your Child 65

5 The Power and the Struggle (and Some Solutions) 102

6 Using What You Can Control to Manage What You Can't 129

7 The Positive Side of Misbehavior 148

8 The Four Mistaken Goals of Misbehavior 177

9 Sibling Rivalry 224

10 Bringing Everyone Together 253

11 Taking the Toolbox Home 274

Acknowledgments 287

Index 291

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“A must read! If I Have to Tell You One More Time delivers practical, step-by-step tools for well-behaved kids and happy families.”
—Dr. Michele Borba, author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions and Today show contributor “I’ve always said that if parents do their job right, they eventually work themselves out of a job. Finally: the tools we all need to achieve ‘parental unemployment.’ And best of all, you never have to get mad.”
—Wendy L. Walsh, Ph.D., human behavior expert on CNN, cohost of The Doctors, and mother of two “Packed with clear direction—including really practical tips and simple strategies—for how to put an end to whining, tantrums, battles, and all the rest, this book will be a giant relief for parents who want to bring out the best in their kids.”
—Dr. Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness
“Spoken like a real mom. This revolutionary program will help any parent address any problem . . . with calm.”
—Hal E. Runkel, author of ScreamFree Parenting

Editorial Reviews

A must read! If I Have to Tell You One More Time delivers practical, step-by-step tools for well-behaved kids and happy families.”
— Dr. Michele Borba, author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions and Today show contributor

“I’ve always said that if parents do their job right, they eventually work themselves out of a job. Finally: the tools we all need to achieve ‘parental unemployment.’ And best of all, you never have to get mad.”
— Wendy L. Walsh, Ph.D., human behavior expert on CNN, cohost of The Doctors, and mother of two

“Packed with clear direction—including really practical tips and simple strategies—for how to put an end to whining, tantrums, battles, and all the rest, this book will be a giant relief for parents who want to bring out the best in their kids.”
— Dr. Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness

“Spoken like a real mom. This revolutionary program will help any parent address any problem . . . with calm.”
— Hal E. Runkel, author of ScreamFree Parenting

From the Publisher

"Get off Skype! You're supposed to be doing your homework!" The subjects may have evolved, but, unfortunately, parent-child arguments haven't essentially changed over the decades. Mothers and fathers still wonder "Why do we have the same disagreements again and again? How can we extract ourselves from this endless circle of frustration?" Amy McCready's If I Have To Tell You One More Time possesses an archetypal title, but its psychological approach relies not on Carl Jung, but on his contemporary Alfred Adler (1870-1937). Its strategy rests on the exquisitely simple observation that every human, regardless of age, has a basic need to feel powerful. Finally, an end to "This is the last time I'm going to tell you: Clean up your room!"